Spoiler Alert: If you haven't listened to IBG newest podcast installment discussing TI and his shenanigans, please listened to it before reading this post.
I'm upset. I'm upset because I still can't understand why TI would divulge to the world that his daughter's hymen is intact? Perhaps he's proud to know that his daughter was able to abstain from sexual pressures while in high school, but, why does the world need to know this? It's uncomfortable. And, it's not uncomfortable because she's a virgin, it's uncomfortable because as a father, he discussed his daughter's sexuality, as if it was a normal coffee clutch type of conversation. This is very cringy - to say the least. Where is the respect for his daughter's privacy?
If it was his daughter who divulged her virgin status to encourage young girls like herself to abstain from sexual activities - as there is no need to rush, then that would have been AMAZING! But, this wasn't the case. TI sounded like a father who is controlling and worried how people would view him which is why, in my belief, he wanted to tell the world that his daughter was still a virgin. Somewhere in his head, he probably thought that people would have praised him because of his daughter's hymen status. But, in all actuality, if praises are in order, it would and should be directed to the daughter. Not TI.
TI, is like so many of these controlling fathers who think that they have to do extra shit like taking their daughter to the doctor to see if they're still a virgin because in their mind, that would make their daughter do what they consider, as the "right thing". When in all actuality, it does the total opposite. It only shows the lack of trust they have for their daughter and their privacy. These fathers must understand that if a kid really want to do something, no amount of policing will stop them.
Fathers should only be concerned with how they live their lives in front of their daughters, and how they treat them when the world is not watching.
If I could ask TI, I would ask...would your daughter be able to say without hesitation that you respect women? Would your daughter be able to say without hesitation that you are a true nurturer? Would your daughter be able to say without hesitation that you're there for her emotionally? Would your daughter be able to say without hesitation that she knows for a fact that you will be there for her until the end of time? Would your daughter be able to say without hesitation that she wants to marry a man just like you? If she can't answer with an affirmative "YES" to all these questions without the world watching, then perhaps the last thing your ass should be worrying about is some virginity.